Understanding the Complexities of Gender: Sam Killermann at TEDxUofIChicago


Translator: Pavel Tchérnof
Reviewer: Denise RQ So, I’m not gay. (Laughter) Thank you. I’m not. But I find myself saying that a lot. You could go so far as to say
that I’m professionally not gay, which is weird, because my life revolves around a comedy
show called “It’s Pronounced Metrosexual”, where I go onstage, and I talk about identity
and snap judgments on sexuality. But the funniest thing about all of this is that none of it really has
anything to do with sexuality. The reason why I started doing that show, and the reason why people
always assume I’m gay has nothing to do with sexuality. It’s all about gender. Gender and sexuality are often lumped
together but they’re two different things. It’s like apples and sexy oranges. (Laughter) Not the same thing. They’re certainly related,
but they’re independent concepts. It’s important to realize
that one does not dictate the other. Today I’m going to be talking
about gender and not sexuality. Gender is something
we all learn about as kids, but we learn a very limited concept
of a concept that’s truly unlimited. What we learn as kids is just incomplete. It’s pieces of the puzzle,
but it’s not the full scene. Now, in case you didn’t grow up
in the States or missed it growing up, I’m going to give you a quick rundown
on gender as it’s taught here, maybe you’ll relate. Take all people and divide them into two. Boys line up on the left,
girls line up on the right. Boys, let’s start with you. Boys are aggressive, impetuous,
good at math, love the color blue. They get dirty, roughhouse,
play sports, but not house. Trucks, and soldiers, and Legos are
their toys, but they break them all. Because boys will be boys. Boys can grow up
and be whatever they want. The world is their oyster,
and whether or not they realize, it’s their privilege to capitalize
on this prize, it’s limited just to guys. It’s there for them: the Y chromosome prize. Boys have no limit. The bar is as high as it can go. There is not extent to their privilege, unless they want to be a nurse,
because that’s kind of gay. (Laughter) Right? Girls, on the other hand, are docile,
passive, natural caretakers, love the color pink,
born to be good bakers. Girls hate bugs, love hugs,
and are better at vacuuming rugs. Science. (Laughter) Dolls, and purses,
and make-up make their days, while boys play with video games,
girls would rather play with hairspray. Girls grow up to be moms
and leave the other jobs to dads. Unless they want to be a teacher,
a nurse, a receptionist, or a clerk. Now, what I just described,
certainly applies to a few of you. Yeah, there are people for which
these descriptions end up being true. The problem here is options.
And if you’re counting, we have only two. Two options to describe
every person in this room; each and every one of you. Two options to describe
every person in this world– seven billion individual identities
simplified into two. Now, as you can probably guess,
gender isn’t really that simple. It’s true. In fact, there are as many versions
of gender as there are number of you. What I’m going to talk about tonight
is a lot to wrap your mind around. But don’t worry.
I’m here to break it down. (Beatboxing)
Nah, I’m just kidding. I’m not. (Laughter) I’m not, that’s not.
That’s not happening. Not at all. Not even a little bit. The easiest way to understand gender
is to break it into three distinct pieces: one, gender identity, which is
who you in your head know yourself to be. More on this in a bit. Two, gender expression,
the ways you present gender through your actions, dress, and demeanor. And three, biological sex, the physical characteristics
you were born with. This will all get clearer. Let’s start with biological sex, the physical traits
you’re born with and develop that in many people’s eyes equals gender. We understand biological sex to be
made up of a bunch of different things: chromosomes, hormones,
hip to shoulder ratio, breast size, voice pitch, just to name a few. But we always think of one thing:
reproductive organs a.k.a. penises and vaginas. (Laughter) Right? We equate gender to penises and vaginas. But here’s the thing: gender is not universal,
gender is not cross-cultural. And gender changes over time. You know what is universal? Penises and vaginas. (Laughter) You know what is cross-cultural? Penises and vaginas. And you know what doesn’t change
over time? Pe… — actually, evolution. (Laughter) But for the last 2,000 years,
penises and vaginas. You know what you’re expecting me
to yell onstage? Penises and vagi– sorry. I’m having a moment. (Laughter) Back to reality. What I’m trying to say is that while biological sex
is something that exists in a uniform and predictable way, something that can be measured
around the world by scientists without much debate. You can’t say the same thing about gender. Gender is relative. Gender is cultural. And gender, the way we express
and understand it, changes over time. But we still connect
biological sex to gender. If someone is born with a penis
and testicles, he’s a male. He’s a he, and we raise him to be a him. If someone is born
with a vagina, she’s a female. She’s a she, and we raise her to be a her. And when we’re not sure,
when someone is born intersex, with ambiguous genitalia, we guess. We guess if he is a he, or she is a she. And based on that guess, we raise him
to be a him, or her to be a her. Which, as you can probably guess,
can be problematic. And it’s not just problematic
to assign gender based on sex, on people who are born intersex. I’ll get to that in a minute. First, I want to talk
about gender identity. I’m going to say this again, because
it’s something that needs to be said: gender isn’t the parts
that make up your body, it’s what’s in your head. To understand the difference between gender identity
and biological sex, we need to first make sense
of what’s in our heads. All the world’s a stage, and all the men
and women merely players. Shakespeare said this 200 years
before we had a word for sociology. But Will knew his stuff.
In every way, he was a prodigy. And what he said here rings true
in my ears all these years later as I’m thinking about norms, and folkways,
and what Durkheim called mores, and all the descriptive roles we play
in our day to day without even really… OK. (Laughter) Had another moment. What I’m trying to say is
what Shakespeare said about the stage, he hit the nail on the head. At birth, you’re cast in a play, given a role, given a script, and told
to play that part until you’re dead. The directors in our plays follow us
around every day of our life. The directors are our parents,
our teachers, our peers, our preachers, news broadcasters, book writers,
TV show producers, firefighters, every person in your life
who has an impact on you, knows the script you’ve been given and knows when you’ve
been missing your cues. And as we grow up, we become
directors in other people’s plays. We know when a little boy
isn’t playing a little boy part right, or when a little girl is running astray. All of that’s sociology. But it’s important to have a grasp on it if you’re going to have
a grasp on gender identity. Because gender identity
is rooted in sociology. It’s rooted in gender norms, and roles, and the way that we perpetuate
and reinforce those ideas in society. Your gender identity is how you make sense
of yourself in your head, and how much you align or don’t align with what you understand
the options for gender to be. Those options,
and your understanding of them, are based on how you were socialized
to understand what gender is. And that will be different from continent
to continent, country to country, state to state, even person to person. But for the most part, we have
a shared idea as a society what it means to be man, woman, or other. Gender identity is, at its root,
a way of classifying personality. But we have way more
than two personalities. So, why do we set up
our gender options that are binary? Well, we don’t. Not all of us, anyway. Let me give you a rundown
of some gender identities I know of. I’ll try to do it alphabetically. But I can assure you,
that’s not my strong suit. A gender, bi gender, genderless, gender queer, gender fluid, man, non-binary, non-gender, trans, third gender,
transgender, transsexual, transvestite, two spirit, woman. I could keep going. That’s more than two.
So, we can leave it at that. I don’t have time to define
all those terms for you, but they’re easy to look up. That’s what the Internet’s for.
Well, and porn, but… (Laughter) Don’t do that! (Laughter) What I do want to say is that the thing
that binds all those identities together, the reason why they exist is because there are groups of people
who are so not man or woman that they needed
a whole new label to apply to them. These are people who historically have been labeled as having
a psychological condition, a gender identity disorder,
gender dysphoria. They’ve been called troubled,
confused, and sick, a danger to themselves
and our moral fabric, when in reality,
it’s society that’s confused. Our understanding
of gender as binary is sick. And to make someone
confined to one of two options when in their minds they know
that that role isn’t for them… Take the script away
and mark it up with a pen. This isn’t the role I was born to play. I know myself better
than you could ever know me. And who are you to say what’s healthy when your idea of health
is destroying a part of me? Our understanding of gender as binary isn’t just incomplete, it’s dangerous. In a recent study in the UK, 84% of trans people reported
that they had considered suicide. Half of them attempted it. They did this
because they didn’t feel welcome. They didn’t feel right. They didn’t fit. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to say gender identity,
or non-binary gender identity is a dark thing. Or at least it shouldn’t be. We just need to shed some light on it. So, I’ve talked about biological sex
– penises and vaginas – I’ve talked about gender identity; I want to talk about gender expression,
which is a different thing entirely. I’m a man. It’s probably not a surprise
for most of you to hear that. Because I’m so manly. (Laughter) Why do people laugh when I say that? (Laughter) I mean, no one doubts
my male identity, right? The answer to that question is the difference between
gender identity and gender expression. People laugh when I call myself manly because, even though they
don’t question my manness, they question my masculinity. I’m a man who wears
pants too tight, colors too bright, my voice is a bit too high,
and my hair is just right. To be forthright,
I cry during “Lion King.” If you don’t, I think you’re dead inside. (Laughter) (Applause) I clean up well. And I smell delightful. And I use words like “cute”,
and, well, “delightful”. (Laughter) Gender expression is all of that and more. It’s the ways we present ourselves,
and what those things stand for. Gender expression changes
from culture to culture because what gender means in ours means
something completely different in another. We tend to think of gender expression as existing on a scale
from masculine to feminine. When in reality it’s two separate scales
and a measurement on each of them. On one scale we can measure
how much we express femininity. All those things I told you about myself
would increase that exponentially. But on the other scale,
we measure masculinity. Does me having a beard
make my salmon pants less girly? No, not really. But it does increase
my masculinity, slightly. Gender expression changes quite readily. In some cases, it changes
from activity to activity. Think of an average day for you. Here’s how one starts for me. I wake up, hair matted
to the side of my head; drool on my face, wearing boxer briefs,
grumbling obscenities. It’s at this point in my day
that I express most masculinity. But it changes quickly. Because step one of my day is going
to the bathroom, getting full on pretty. (Laughter) I hop in the shower, shampoo my hair. Awapuhi Ginger leave-in conditioner,
facial scrub, full body wash. Hop out of the tub, I smell like a flower. (Laughter) And then I pluck my eyebrows. I’ll do my hair, try on outfits
in front of my mirror, which I’m sure is something
all the guys do in here, am I right, bros? (Laughter) No? Then I hop on a bus. I’ll do phone call meetings
for my nonprofit and work in broy phrases
like “dude” and “bullshit” because in that part of my life,
and I hate to admit it, expressing masculinity
is a pretty big benefit. And then I go to a café,
order a black tea, and sit quietly, working and keeping
to myself throughout the day. So, in just a few hours, I’ve expressed
both masculinity and femininity. In just the few minutes I’ve been
on this stage, I’ve done the same thing. It’s something you’ve been noticing,
even if just subconsciously. A lot of people express the gender
that aligns with their gender identity; some people don’t,
whether it’s for comfort, pleasure, or personal creativity. And for some people,
gender expression is a performance, a display of hyper-masculinity
or femininity. You’ve probably heard of these people. They call them drag kings and drag queens. So, let’s wrap this all together. Let’s put this all together. I’ve talked about a lot
in a very short amount of time. I tried my best to condense it down
and make it understandable, I made it rhyme. (Laughter) But, gender isn’t something you’re going
to fully understand in 15 minutes. If I were to write a book about gender, it would be very hard
to do in under 200 pages. And I know that,
because I wrote a book about gender, and it was very hard to do it
in under 200 pages. But we still talked about a lot.
So, let’s recap. One, let’s all agree that gender is more complex
than what we learned as kids. Two, while biological sex
is certainly a component of gender, it is not a determinant. That is the biological sex characteristics
that you are born with don’t really have any mandate on
who you’ll grow up to be. People who are born with penises
are taught to be boys. People who are born with vaginas
are taught to be girls. Three, gender identity, how you make sense of gender in your head, sometimes aligns with your biological sex, and sometimes it doesn’t. Four, your gender expression
is a separate thing entirely. It’s how you present gender to the world, and sometimes it aligns
with your biological sex and your gender identity,
and a lot of times it doesn’t. And five, let’s all agree that gender
as we learned as kids is not as complex as it should be. Now, I know that that was number one.
But it’s also number five; because it’s very important. In my ideal world,
well, let’s put it this way. Socrates said, “The only true wisdom
is in knowing you know nothing.” After this talk, I hope that this talk
will serve as a catalyst in helping you realize
how little you actually know about gender, as well as an inspiration
to open your mind and be willing to learn more. We’re all constantly learning
about gender. And we have time to do that.
But you have to be willing to. You have to be willing to unlearn
all the things you learned as a kid and open your mind up
to some stuff that might freak you out. But that’s what it’s all about. Now, in my dreams, I don’t foresee
a society that is gender blind. But I do foresee and wish for one
that’s gender creative where people can figure out
who they are and be themselves, exploring what that means
and in that they’ll be supported. Where questioning one’s gender
won’t be shunned, but an expectation, and where realizing that you don’t fit
into this gender mold, won’t lead to isolation and depression, but will be a source of celebration. And above all, a society where people, regardless of their gender
formation, are safe. But, in the meantime, can we at least get some gender neutral
bathrooms up in this piece? (Cheers) Thank you. (Applause)

100 thoughts on “Understanding the Complexities of Gender: Sam Killermann at TEDxUofIChicago

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  2. I was not expecting poetry. That and the message in it, would have been enough proof, but then there's the mention of The Lion King and the wisdom of Socrates throw in at the end there, adding to the evidence of an awesome person. Very nicely done, Sam Killermann.

  3. This is ridiculous. The pro-gender "identity" community continues to push their opinion that being a man or a woman is more about personal "identity" and "expression" than what sex you're born. Try telling any woman who experiences any type of oppression based on being female that her oppression has nothing to do with being female. I'm so done with the "gender-identity" community using pseudo-science to spread the idea that gender is this magical substance existing separately in your brain that hasn't nothing to do with the rest of your body. It's so sad that people actually think that if you don't act like a "typical" male or a "typical" female then you have to be trans or gender fluid or bigender and can't be a man or woman. It's completely sexist! You're a man because you're male. Youre a woman because you're female. Wear whatever the hell you want and expression yourself however you want, but you don't get to just call yourself a woman if you're a male who wears lipstick and you're not a man just because you're a lesbian female who likes sports. You think girls are forced into underage marriages because they "identify" as women at 10years old? You think women in asia bound their feet because they "identified" with it? You think male violence is has nothing to do with men being male and its just a coincidence that rapists all happen to be male? Because if gender "identity" had any actual legitimacy then we would see just as many females commuting male pattern violence because they "identify" as men. Please stop.

  4. Here are the genders I know:
    Agender, bigender, cisgender, demigirl, demigirl, female, genderfluid, genderflux, genderqueer, gender neutral, male, non binary, transgender, trigender. There are many more genders but those are the ones I can think of right now.

  5. yeah to be honest. I don't get it. but uh, you can live your life however you want to. just don't get pissed at me if I call you dude.

    calmly say you're not, and then I'll explain to you that when I use dude its a gender neutral term.

  6. Comedy and social justice don't mix. They can't make any smart jokes because their whiny adult crybaby audience will get offended, so they can only resort to slap comedy, only infantilising the audience even further.

  7. all the jerks on here need to stop bashing this video and this guy. I agree with everything he says. Gender and sexuality are not the same thing, they are separate. A man can identify as a woman and vice versa.

  8. Don't want to to sound rude, but if you don't agree with something, does your opinion really matter? Can people just let others do what they want to do? Does the concept of having several genders as opposed to binary genders cause harm to the disagreeing individual? I don't believe so. I, too, used to disagree with this concept. But as I grew older, I began to realize how diluted society was and still is. THANKS SOCIOLOGY CLASS.

  9. Fatally wrong from the beginning.
    All that 'boy' or 'girl' really describes is your gender (or biological sex for the triggered buzzword millennials), and nothing else. All the expectations as such are stereotypes, meaning they're usually accurate, but not always.
    You get called a girly boy if you do things that most girls do, and this does not call for some gender revolution.
    Like it or not, humans are organised. You can't be special or unique, and even if you are that doesn't make you any useful.

  10. Thank you, my child is changing maybe I shouldn't say changing she is who she has always been and has now shared it with me. I'm so happy she has, so I have been doing as much research to understand all the complexities. So that I may be conscious of the things she goes through & others. So again Thank you for sharing such a wonderful talk!

  11. He got the directors part correct and also about limits that society put on what people of certain gender can archive or should do.

  12. People take this stuff as fact. LMAO. See, Im christian. People dont all believe in christianity because it is all based on opinion and strong belief. But somehow, gender identity is fact. So someone believing that there is an almighty god that science cannot explain is opinion… but someone believing their gender is something they can make up and change at any given time is fact? Last I checked, humans don't magically swap between having penises and vaginas… God is based on strong belief and opinion and I believe he is real. Gender however, is clear cut and in your face all the time. You can choose to not believe in that, but that would make you an idiot. I can run around saying Im a toaster until I die, but I am a human.

  13. If Im ever committed of a crime I'm going to identify myself as a female even though I have a penis and express myself as a dude . Pretty sure I will get a lighter sentence or whatever

  14. Gender isn't complex at all. There's only 2 genders. If you want to prove me wrong then tell me what the other genders are and what their biological purpose is.

  15. You say boys have it made? The world is our oyster; we can do anything we want, as boys. Sorry……I don't think any of this is true.

  16. I think I don't quite get it yet. Shouldn't there be no genders at all instead of many many different ones? If gender defines an outline that we have to fit in (play by the script) but we feel bad while doing it because not everybody alligns with that script, that's destructive and bad for the personal development. That's why we move away from just male and female, right? I don't have to be manly all the time, like the speaker said, just because I have a penis. But if we have many different genders defined, don't we still define the roles people should fit in? Shouldn't we theoretically have a unique gender for everybody then that changes all the time depending on the development of the individual or just abolish gender alltogether?

  17. Those people saying penis=man and vag=woman, how would you describe INTERSEX individuals? Facts right? Provide me with FACTS to describe their gender!

  18. Gender identity…..gender expression…..what is all about that being popularized, recently? Never heard any of this in the 1990s. Why now?

  19. I was born as a de facto male sort of something, in other words intersex. In addition to male parts I have female bits. Even though most of those female bits were removed over my life time. The one female bit that couldn't be removed was that part between my ears. So I spent the majority of my life trying to be a male, I've even been married for most of my adult life. Fortunately my spouse accepts me for who I am because she saw first hand the pain I suffered from all the surgeries and the chemotherapy from a form of testicular/ovarian cancer. She has seen me cry and cry in pain. Not just physical pain but emotional pain too.
    I really embrace the TED speech with all my spirit.

  20. I found this positively creepy. The presentation, from the relatable pants to the rehersed and perfectly recited rhymes is effectively designed to appeal to young people. The propaganda about boys being privileged and girls being victims was not very subtle because after all this is mainstream. But the subtle cues and encouragement for people to ''explore their identity'' and basically not be binary is chilling. Couple that with increasing leftist radicalization, intolerance of differing opinions and aggressive coersion and pressure to conform, and you might just get a whole bunch of young people who are suddenly identifying as gender queer, either because they are incentivised and rewarded, or because they are too scared to be a part of what is deemed a privileged ''oppressor'' identity group. And when all of these ''opression'' and victimhood indoctrinated college students become disfunctional and undercompetent members of the society… well, less power to the people is more power to the large authoritarian government of the postmodern political left.

  21. Men aiming to be flower pretty is no revolutionary act: George Washington wore a wig and tights. Sam isn't overtly "gay", either. His plucked eyebrows are about as typical as drunk guys at a Superbowl Party.
    Anyone who fails to fit into societal norms is deviant, and I use this term not in the pejorative sense, but simply to indicate the non conformist.
    This sort of gender examination is a way for the bourgeoisie to further contemplate navels. Sam is far from oppressed or brave.

  22. You either have a penis or a vagina. Simple as that. Anything else is a social construct. You know like your imaginary friend.

  23. This guy puts the cart before the horse. Gender evolved because of our bodies, our sex organs and hormones. Gender roles are not as limited as he makes out, I certainly wasn't conscious of most of the labels he was talking about as I grew up – my favourite colour was yellow and I loved singing in a choir, neither of which were ever considered non-male by my peers, family etc.There are though, due to our sex organs and hormones etc. not 2 basic genders, but 3. Male, female and other. You can slice the "other" as finely as you like. Let's remember that the "other" represents about 2% or less of our society, so, on the whole, our existing loose concepts of male and female are fine.

  24. Well we didn't have a sick society in this respect when we lived under the Romans – people knew what they were and conformed to it and didn't tend to question it – please don't get offended by this, how you choose to critique, interpret or rebuke this is down to you. Again whether it was moral or ethical or not is down to you, I would just like to throw this out in the name of discussion.

  25. Another suggestion of discussion: Children never (should probably say execptionally rarely) start to question their own gender and get upset or confused, unless they are exposed to this idea. Your thoughts or ideas?

  26. Another idea I am throwing out there: I have always been comfortable and fine that I am a male, a boy, a lad whatever you want to call it and I like to live up to some of the stereotypical expectations of being a young male. Is this right, moral, or what?

  27. if humans are raised to act a certain way based on their genitals and sjws like Sam are trying to combat that, why create so many genders? isnt that just labeling yourself? why not be like "i am a man and i like to paint my nails and go shopping"? by normalizing those behaviors for men, you wouldnt have to label yourself all of these fake genders.

  28. Boys have penises, and girls have vaginas.. postmodernism is a cancer on society, and the modern version of the failed ideology that killed over 100million people in the 20th century(aka marxism).. but by all means keep deviding people into more and more categories, what could possibly go wrong?(emperor Mao would be ecstatic)..

  29. This is just over complicating everything. What does it really mean to be a man or a woman? The only thing that determines the difference is your biological make up. You could have almost nothing in common with your fellow man/woman but it doesn't make you any less of one. There is no mold here, just stereotypes. All these new terms they invent for themselves could all be summed up in one word, Personality.

  30. So genders are just other labels to put on ourselves. Why not call it gender characteristics? I still don't get it. Let's say you are sensitive man. Instead of saying you're a sensitive man, you just changed the word man to a different word to describe that. Lol. So you're just exchanging one word for another basically

  31. You realise that him considering getting dressed up nicely, as feminine, is actually relying on stereotypes. Which I thought all the feminists were against.

  32. i have watched 100rds of videos and talked to so many on what gender identity is and all i can gather is your all taking something so simple and turning it into something so complicated that it has lost its meaning entirely and your now trying to redefine it all, for no reason. basically everyone is saying that male and female roles are wrong and no one should be confined to stereotype roles of birth, true. but from there, all these labels to define and categorize every single degree of expression of someone self identity is just overkill ridiculous self indulgence. if we just fight to kill the stereotype roles and make it norm to be and act and do as you please that makes you happy and in no way hurts or effects others negatively. these labels make no sense and just hurt everything. if your going to hate on me then move on, if your going to offer real advice then i will be grateful to listen and learn. thank you.

  33. The common theme with these people is that they think that society is wrong and they aren't. In reality it is they who should adapt and conform to the standards of society. Everyone is so arrogant to assume they inherently deserve the acceptance of society for their own flawed selves.

  34. How can a subjective concept like this ever work in a society? Is it okay for me as a man to walk into a female bathroom because all of a sudden I identify as a female? People like to label skeptics as "transphobic", when in reality all we want is to have a discussion. Critical thinking is important.

  35. I love how the peple that say against this never watched the video at all lmao. Goes to saying that those types of people don't know what they're talking about, and how can I believe their discourse for that reason?

  36. You are trying to make personality into gender. This is so pointless. IDK why you idiots obsess about gender all the time. It’s so boring and pointless.

  37. K well this is super harmful for people. You are trying to solve many possible psychological problems with slapping a made up gender on them.

  38. I’m sorry but the more I try to understand the more I disagree with this whole topic; it’s ridiculous. He was a good speaker though

  39. 性别残疾人自杀不是因为社会的,而是因为他们不愿意接受心理异常的现实,精神错乱,这势必会被界定为精神疾病,如果科学界不会受某些激进组织,因为这是精神疾病。

  40. It's painful to watch a grown "man" snivel and self-flagellate the way this person does in this video. He clearly spent too much time getting beaten in the high-school bathroom and not enough time in biology class.

  41. So many opinions and facts being thrown around. I don't really know where I stand. I want people to be accepting. I want people to be themselves and be happy. There are problems with both sides presented. Traditional thinking and new age thinking are both flawed. Maybe we should present both options to kids and let them play with whatever toy or wear whatever color they like. Whatever will fix the suffering of confusion and feeling out of place will do. It should be addressed.

  42. I know 3 NonBinary people IRL and countless online and this makes me to happy cause I am one of those 3 and they played this in my class and nobody hated on it

  43. So boy-types play with cars and girl-types play with dolls? There's nothing progressive about the gingerbread character. It's just male chauvinism and misogyny in a different guise. Real sad. The world is becoming gender obsessed and forgetting biology.

  44. So if we keep going with this "ideology" then we need to find a gender for the guy that believes he is a tiger, the one that believes is God etc etc… And will never end…

  45. This talk unfortunately reinforces outdated and offensive terminology. I think the responsible thing would be to remove it or research how it is WRONG and INACCURATE. Not to mention this is a white, cisgender, man who clearly identifies as straight. Why do we lift the voices of folks who are the least marginalized among us? And then to have problematic language perpetuated is disheartening to those of us who do have multiple marginalized identities. Still reduced to the punchline of someone else's insensitive joke.

  46. It appears that it's not really an issue of whether someone is born male or female (Biologically). This gender identity, and gender expression comes from stereotypes a person has made based on their perceptions of how people should express themselves according to their genitalia. I am still not convinced that there is anything other than male or female. The speaker is mostly just talking about self-expression.

    Speaking for myself; I wear bright blue pants, I style my hair, and I try out different outfits in the mirror. I am still a man, and I enjoy an artistic expression of myself. I have not stereotyped myself into a "feminism" category. I am still a guy (Biologically). I have no idea how gender is somehow bleeding into personality/expression. These are two completely different categories. There is only 2 genders; male and female. An there is countless ways to express yourself, and that has nothing to do with gender; everyone is uniquely different. These are two completely different topics. How are people trying to merge gender and personality/expression. This is total nonsense.

  47. The pharisee mindset in the west is causing this confusion for the westerners. The way masculinity and femininity has been framed in the minds of people has been done by suppressing their personalities, desires and pleasures…Good gracious this has caused a catastrophic delusions and confusions….

    Gender is binary – yes we can have deformities or fetal developmental issues but just bcz you are born with 8 arms – it doesn't mean that is now a norm. Reality check, our reality isn't what we say it is – "experts" are confused about what reality is. There isn't anything between a boy and a girl, nothing between a man and a woman and, female and male!!! You may not like that – but it doesn't change that FACT? Gender is due to you being a carrier of a seed or an incubator of the seed – there is nothing in between that!!! You are either a carrier or and incubator – that is a FACT! The attributes of our gender can be factual or/and cultural/traditional and religious based!!! So instead of not using cultural/tradition and religious gender attributes – we are throwing the baby out with the bathwater!

    There is a thin line between sanity and insanity we know that – but yet we don't know all things! Question is, when do we know when we are self-destructive and when we are not? Just bcz it feels good, it doesn't mean it is moral (not self-destructive)…Issue here is that we want to say we love – but yet we don't know what love is, the fact that we want to say we care – but that is not clear what it means if there are no guidelines other than "as long as it feels good to me and you"…That logic alone is so not wise for so many reasons…

  48. This is what you get when you ignore the Bible , have broken homes, have way too much money sloshing around in sociology departments , and have the ravings of the insane polluting the internet .

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