Transgender Children Talk About Being Raised By Their Families | them

is it hard to be trans but now sometimes on the news says like people are hurting transgender people especially transgender African Americans and that makes me scared sometimes my hair I would always try to keep it somewhat long I was visiting my dad he said we're shaving it off as I'm like crying he pretty much had to hold me down to shave off all of my hair one of the first things that I did after I started putting the pieces together and realizing I was a boy was I kept praying and kept asking for guidance but the pastors at that church were not using my pronouns they said that they were not going to support me so he had to leave some people don't know who they are until like a long time I'm someone who knew who I was quickly I told mom that I'm not a girl I'm a boy she said okay you feel like a boy and I said I don't feel like a boy I am a boy I think I spent a year being scared and you're crying I don't think you guys saw me cry but I cried at night I felt really guilty I thought maybe I hadn't raised a proud girl and my mom kept saying you know if you just put a dress on her I tried that I tried to convince Penelope that she was a girl I mean I growing up was Republican Catholic I remember being really scared people are mean will they hurt you will they hurt us I love my dad but he essentially said that's wrong you have a mental disease you need to be fixed to be quite honest it was pretty much hell to be living as myself at home and to go to school and be somebody else God is the most important thing in my life I had a lot of tough conversations with God about what's happened here where did I go wrong I don't think we could have raised you in an environment that was less conducive to making you think that you were transgender my dysphoria got worse I just hated the constant use of the wrong pronouns and having to pretend that I was a girl Reese was really withdrawn it seemed depressed when you told us this I think it was kind of like oh okay well if this is what's going on great let's figure out how we can help you to live life as a boy so that you will be the joyful person that you are I'll never forget that first time that you performed as Nicole when you stepped onto that stage in that dress with a microphone and saying it was without question a defining moment because I had never seen you in such an authentic way the more we watched Penelope year after year after year now ten years you realize but no he is a boy he's not faking it he's not pretending in that plane Jeff if he is a boy do you guys have any memories when you're growing up of him doing anything that you felt didn't really seem like a girl would do the coach was screaming at me run after the ball and I would start skipping like doing some weird thing that was exactly what they told me not to do that was girl stereotypical rage came up to me and he asked so how do you be a boy I started to think about it and then I said well no gotta use power tools and everything like gave me some of your clothes I let him use my clothes you were imitating your brother from very early on so if cash is what stub his toe you'd say my toe hurt mama and if Cash's would get in trouble you would take a timeout first thing we did was get your hair cut so he got a really short boy haircut and then boy clothes way clothes he looked like a different person yeah the first time I allowed you to wear a dress and the other thing is public I feel like a bird that's been trapped in a cage since the day she was born and for the first time you got to spread her wings and fly well I I definitely liked that I was wearing clothes that helped me to pass it but at the same time I knew that I wanted to dress like more androgynous but I wasn't sure if I would get the courage to do that but I think once I started dressing this way I realized that this this is more me how did you feel about my medical transition I couldn't understand the whole Blocker concept but as puberty got closer as theatre and singing became so important the thought of your voice changing you not being able to be a soprano and perform became really really clear to me I remember when puberty was coming I was like no we need to get in there like now get this done because I don't want to go through anything a lot of my friends were so excited for all the changes and I was like why on earth you want a womanly body like that makes no sense I think your exact words were I'm going through the wrong puberty my hair changed clothing and that's it I think you're the same person I think what shifted was as I saw you so much more confident and happy that encouraged me to try to be a better mom for you I was so happy to have another brother and everything and I just it was a really special day from Utah bond with Reese as a brother and considering him that way I feel really safe in our community but if I think about the news I think wow if we just went to a different neighborhood or a different state or different country or a different part of the world maybe we wouldn't be as safe with Reese living his truth helped us to see the truth and everyone else as well and some people aren't prepared or understand this journey our church in support Reese so we're trying to search for a new church that includes and loves and cares for everybody do you miss your dad yes and my half siblings and my stepmom like I miss them but that love came with conditions when you initially came out I was very afraid of the reaction of friends and family and now I don't really care about that what I'm most beautiful for now is your ability see your self-worth and how much sure lots of values I thought my child is something that no one talks about but no one knows that I don't have any example of I was willing to get it but they're more scared I felt the more I put my energy into changing people's minds it absolutely fills me to tell our story meet with legislators and help other families and I think it's our job as a family to come alongside Rhys and be a light for people and to say that this is who God made God made Rhys and it's a special gift to us and especially gift to the world I like to let people know that we are family of transgender people and cisgender people if people don't like who we are then they can go someplace else I want to make a change and make the world a better place for everyone so people can just be themselves and don't have to worry about the world around them judging them they can just be

29 thoughts on “Transgender Children Talk About Being Raised By Their Families | them

  1. The girl dressing in all black has definitely took on a demon. No true church that goes by the Bible will accept a person living as a sodomite. And say it’s okay to be this way. Because it’s not okay. It’s perversion, the Bible says that. God says that

  2. I found out that I was FTM at 12-13 and my mom if very unsupportive. I cant transition till im 18. Just 5 more years. 😥😭😭😭😥

  3. His dad shaved his hair off and said he had a mental disease, which is plainly obvious, kudo's dad for not lying to your son. Now THAT's a father.

  4. "What I'm most worried about now is your ability to see your self worth" well yeah that might be a touch harder because he's goth

  5. It's not a disease. Truly it's a mental illness specifically called axis one comorbid gender dysphoria..the goth will he get a job in the big wide world..will a company take him on..its sk sad..the illness is in the mind not body

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