Speech presentation week 5

hey guys this is Erica Vasquez help everybody is doing okay so today I wanted to talk to you guys about interpersonal relationships more specifically dialects and interpersonal relationships so let's get started so what is a dialect that dialect is a tension between conflicting forces there is one type of dialing and that is the relational dialect a relational dialect is competing psychological tensions that exist in a relationship so we all have there is relationships and we from time to time may encounter relational dialects so what specifically are those well let's go on to the next slide one type of relation or dialect is the anatomy and connection dialect so anatomy is a desire to do things independent of your partner while connection is the desire to link actions and decisions with your partner for example emma is a connection towards Lewis therefore expresses her thoughts and her pans and wants to do everything with Lewis while Lewis may feel anatomy and would like to do independent activities rather than with Emma which does happen from time to time any relationships so next slide another type of relational dialectics openness and closure so openness is desire to share ideas and thoughts with your partner while closeness is keeping those thoughts and ideas to yourself and not wanting to share much of those so for example Emma is open about her thoughts and feelings with Louis while Lewis might be closed to these and prefers not to say too much so and again this does happen from time to time and relationships any type of relationships that you may have next life a type of dialect another type of dialect is the novelty and predictability so novelty is the desire for originality for freshness or uniqueness in your relationship while predictability is the desire for consistency reliability and dependability so for example Emma and Louis might know each other for a while hence predictability but Emma might opt for a new novelty so she might want a book trip with Louis just kind of out of the blue just to do something new slang so how do we manage these type of dialects so there are four strategies for satisfying opposing means so the first one is temporal selection second one topical segmentation mutualization and reframing so let's go into these so the first one is it sapporo selection that supporter selection is the strategy of choosing one desire while ignoring the other just for the time being so for example Emma Lewis might know that they're spending too much time apart which would be Menotomy so they might opt for connection in turn correcting the anonyme and connection relational dialect so when we're in these type of relationships we try to figure out ways to resolve our issues and this might be a type of idea that you may not for so which again is it's a form of selection so topical segmentation topical segmentation is a strategy of choosing certain topics decided by one desire and other topics to satisfy another designer so for example Emma Lewis might choose to share thoughts about war in school while not really talking about their thoughts about family matters so in a sense that might be open to talking about school and work but close to talking about family matters so that's like it's the neutralization visualization of the strategy of compromising between the desire of one person and the desire of others compromising is very important in the relationship so for example one ever might be spontaneous about booking a trip to Mexico for her a Luis seeking some type of novelty some type of uniqueness freshness to their relationship and Luis might want to keep things predictable which again does happen from time to time every not everyone is the same but it's about coming to a compromise between both parties men's life and lastly it's reframing some reframing is a strategy of changing your perception about the opposing desires so that they no longer seem quite so contradictory so for example Emma might bill she's open about things and Luis is closed about things so she discusses her feelings of Luis and realizes too that she at some point also has helped thoughts and feelings in and not express those to Luis so Emma might see herself as similar to Luis rather than different therefore reframing her perception of the tension so it does happen and lastly it is the conclusion so helping interpersonal relationships are satisfying beneficial and important we should always try to find a way to come to a middle ground with our partner express her thoughts express our feelings make sure that everybody's just doing okay all around relationships do go through many stages so it's important to use that communication and feedback with your partner to know what they're thinking to know what you're thinking this way both of you guys know where you're headed so and that is the end

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