Our Issues Milwaukee – October 28, 2017 (Part 1)


[MUSIC] GOOD MORNING AND WELCOME TO OUR ISSUES MILWAUKEE, I’M YOUR HOST ANDREA WILLIAMS. OCTOBER IS NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. AWARENESS MONTH AND AS WE WRAP UP THE MONTH, WE’D LIKE TO SHINE A LIGHT ON THE ISSUE AND REMIND YOU THAT THERE ARE OUTSTANDING ORGANIZATIONS RIGHT HERE IN OUR CITY READY TO HELP YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW THAT IS A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. OVER THE PAST TWO DECADES, RATES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST FEMALES HAVE DROPPED BY NEARLY THREE QUARTERS, BUT THERE’S STILL MUCH WORK TO DO TO BUILD ON TO THE PROGRESS THAT’S ALREADY BEEN MADE. THE SOJOURNER FAMILY PEACE. CENTER IS THE LARGEST NONPROFIT PROVIDER OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE PREVENTION AND INTERVENTION SERVICES IN WISCONSIN AND MY FIRST GUESS IS CARMEN PITRE. SHE IS THE PRESIDENT AND CEO OF THE SOJOURNER FAMILY PEACE CENTER. HOW ARE YOU, CARMEN? GOOD MORNING. I’M GREAT THANKS FOR HAVING ME. THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE, AND AUTOMATICALLY WHEN WE WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT THESE TYPE OF SUBJECTS WE LEAN A LOT ON STATISTICS AND THEY SHOW US THAT ONE IN FOUR WOMEN AND ONE IN SEVEN MEN WILL EXPERIENCE SEVERE PHYSICAL VIOLENCE BY AN INTIMATE PARTNER IN THEIR LIFETIME. SO IF YOU WOULD TELL US MORE ABOUT THE. SOJOURNER FAMILY PEACE CENTER AND HOW YOU DO HELP VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE? SURE. WE PROVIDE SERVICES IN THREE PRIMARY AREAS. WE DO CRISIS HOUSING WHICH IS OUR SOJOURNER TRUTH HOUSE, INDIVIDUAL SUPPORT AND SYSTEMS ADVOCACY, SO THOSE ARE THE BUCKETS THAT WE WORK IN AND WE SERVE 10,000 ALMOST 10,000 CLIENTS. LAST YEAR WE HAVE 74,000 CONTACTS AND OUR NUMBERS THIS YEAR ARE ON THE RISE. WHAT WE DO THOUGH AT THE CORE IS WALK WITH PEOPLE PROBABLY AT THE WORST TIME IN THEIR LIVES WHEN THEY’RE WHEN THEY’VE BEEN HURT EITHER PHYSICALLY SEXUALLY EMOTIONALLY MENTALLY BY SOMEONE IN AN INTIMATE PARTNERSHIP WITH THEM. MORE LIKELY THAT THEM AND THEIR CHILDREN HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO REPEATED CYCLES OF VIOLENCE AND I THINK IT’S IMPORTANT, WE TALK A LOT AND WE TEND TO SEE THE PHYSICAL PIECE BUT IT REALLY IS A CONTINUUM OF VIOLENCE THAT HAPPENS IN PEOPLE’S LIVES. IT CAN BE ALL OF IT HAPPENING AT ONCE, SO PHYSICAL SEXUAL EMOTIONAL OR MENTAL AND USUALLY IT IS SOME FORM THAT’S HAPPENING OVER TIME. YEAH. IT’S A PATTERN THAT HAVE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT’S GROUNDED IN POWER AND CONTROL. ONE PERSON, USUALLY THE MALE PARTNER WANTING TO EXERCISE CONTROL OVER THE PERSON IN THEIR LIFE. YEAH AND I’M GLAD YOU BRING THAT UP BECAUSE SO MANY TIMES PEOPLE FEEL LIKE SOMEONE HAS TO PUT THEIR HANDS ON YOU IN ORDER TO BE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, BUT THAT’S NOT ALWAYS THE CASE. YOU MENTIONED THERE’S THE WHOLE THING OF MENTAL ABUSE THAT WOULD INCLUDE NAME-CALLING AND. NAME-CALLING, DESTROYING
YOUR PROPERTY MOVING THE FURNITURE AROUND WHERE YOU’RE OUT, CONTROLLING HOW MUCH MONEY YOU HAVE ACCESS TO, WHETHER OR NOT YOU GET YOUR OWN PAYCHECK. AGAIN YOU KNOW SUBTLE TO SEVERE AND I THINK THAT’S AN IMPORTANT MESSAGE. WE HAVE CLIENTS WHO CALL AND SAY WELL YOU KNOW HE NEVER HIT ME BUT ALL THESE OTHER TACTICS OF CONTROL ARE IN PLACE. YEAH. AND IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW THAT IT REALLY IS THE PATTERN, IT’S ALL OF IT, AND IT’S DESIGNED TO BE CONTROLLING OVER WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU GET TO DO IN YOUR LIFE. YEAH AND WE’VE HAD SOME MAJOR STORIES THAT MADE HEADLINES DEALING WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WHERE A WOMAN’S BEEN STALKED ON HER JOB AND THEN IT ESCALATED TO WHERE OTHER PEOPLE WERE HURT AND KILLED AND SO THEN YOU HAVE THAT ASPECT OF STALKING WHERE SOMEONE’S MAYBE YOU’VE DECIDED TO LEAVE AND EVERYWHERE YOU TURN THEY’RE THERE, OR MAYBE THEY’RE EMAILING YOU AND TEXTING YOU OR WHATEVER THE CASE MAY BE. WHAT DOES SOMEONE DO IF THEY’RE IN THESE TYPE OF SCENARIOS BECAUSE WE ALREADY KNOW JUST FROM ALL OF THE YEARS OF TALKING ABOUT IT THAT IT’S VERY DIFFICULT, OR WE SHOULD SAY IT’S EASIER SAID THAN DONE FOR PEOPLE TO GET OUT OF SOME OF THESE SITUATIONS. I THINK YOU LED WITH YOU KNOW THE NUMBERS HAVE BEEN GOING DOWN BUT THE SEVERITY. WE STILL HAVE AN URGENT ISSUE BECAUSE WE STILL HAVE FAR TOO MANY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOMICIDES THAT ARE HAPPENING. WE HAVE GOTTEN BETTER WE HAVE MORE RESOURCES TO HELP US WITH LETHALITY AND TRYING TO PREDICT WHICH CLIENT FACES MORE DANGER VERSUS ANOTHER. AND SO WE HAVE SOMETHING CALLED THE LETHALITY ASSESSMENT PROGRAM WHICH LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICERS USE AT THE SCENE, AND THEN CLIENTS GET ASSIGNED A SCORE A LETHALITY SCORE AND THEN THAT GETS GIVEN TO OUR HOTLINE AND WE HAVE A TEAM THAT MEETS. SO THAT’S ONE PIECE OF THE WORK. WE HAVE TO GET BETTER AT TRYING TO PREDICT. YOU KNOW THERE’S 11 LETHALITY FACTORS THAT WE LOOK AT THAT IT THAT MAY OR MAY NOT BE PRESENT AND FROM YEAR-TO-YEAR THEY CHANGE AND SHIFT, SO UNEMPLOYMENT, ACCESS TO WEAPONS SUICIDAL IDEATION, ALCOHOL AND DRUG ABUSE, HOLDING YOU AGAINST YOUR WILL. THESE ARE ALL THINGS THAT GET FACTORED IN THAT THAT MAKE THE SITUATION YOU’RE FACING MUCH MORE DANGEROUS, ESPECIALLY IF WE’RE LOOKING AT AN ABUSER WHO HAS A GUN, RIGHT? NOT ALL CASES FILL FIT THAT SCENARIO SO WE HAVE TO HANDLE THOSE DIFFERENTLY. THEN WE HAVE TO SAY TO PEOPLE HERE ARE THE RESOURCES THAT ARE AVAILABLE TO YOU, YOU KNOW RESTRAINING ORDERS, CALLING LAW ENFORCEMENT, LEAVING GOING INTO SHELTER MIGHT BE AN OPTION. WE HAVE TO FIGURE OUT WHAT BEST FITS YOUR CIRCUMSTANCE AND THAT’S A PROCESS THAT WE CALL SAFETY PLANNING. IT’S REALLY AN ONGOING CONVERSATION THAT AN ADVOCATE HAS WITH A CLIENT THAT THEY’RE WORKING WITH. YOU GET TO BE IN CONTROL BECAUSE THE REALITY IS IS YOU KNOW YOUR SITUATION BETTER THAN I DO AND THE VIOLENCE WILL MORE THAN LIKELY SPIKE AFTER YOU LEAVE. WE DO SEE THAT AND WE KNOW THAT TO BE TRUE. AND YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED IN YOUR DECISION-MAKING TO FIGURE OUT HOW AM I GOING TO KEEP MYSELF AND MY KIDS SAFE IN THIS PROCESS. AND SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE EVEN CONCERNED WITH THEIR PETS. ABSOLUTELY.
SO DO YOU DO YOU HAVE A SCENARIO WHERE PEOPLE WHO HAVE MADE THE – DECISION TO COME TO A SHELTER, SEEK HELP.
– A PLACE WHERE THEY CAN HAVE THEIR PETS. BE SAFE AS WELL? WE HAVE HAD CLIENTS SAY TO US OVER THE YEARS I CAN’T LEAVE BECAUSE OF MY DOGS, MY CATS, MY HORSES. THEY ARE LIKE FAMILY MEMBERS. RIGHT AND
IF YOU’RE CAUGHT IN A CYCLE OF VIOLENCE WHERE YOU DON’T FEEL LOVED OR YOU’RE IN CONSTANT TERROR, THAT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE MEANS SO MUCH TO YOU. SO WE HAVE A PARTNERSHIP WITH THE WISCONSIN HUMANE SOCIETY CALLED SAFE HAVEN AND WE STARTED THIS YEARS AGO, DESIGNED TO, WE DO FOSTER PARENTING FOR CATS AND DOGS. SO IF YOU’RE A SURVIVOR AND YOU HAVE CATS AND DOGS WE CAN GET THEM IN A FOSTER HOME FOR SIX MONTHS AS YOU’RE TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO NAVIGATE THE CHOICES IN YOUR LIFE. I LOVE THAT AND I LOVE GETTING THAT PIECE OUT BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHO
WANTS TO LEAVE THEIR, THEIR ANIMALS THAT THEY LOVE SO MUCH BEHIND WITH SOMEONE THAT YOU KNOW IS VIOLENT? AND IN MANY
CASES, CARMEN, YOU HAVE AN ABUSER WHO WILL SOMETIMES HURT AN ANIMAL TO GET TO YOU. RIGHT I HAVE BEEN TOLD STORIES I REMEMBER CLIENTS SAYING THINGS LIKE WHEN I CAME HOME AND OPENED UP THE GARAGE DOOR THE DOG WAS HANGING THERE IN THE GARAGE. OH MY
GOD, IT BREAKS YOUR HEART. IT DOES. IT’S HEARTBREAKING.
THESE ARE FAMILY MEMBERS AND PEOPLE CARE ABOUT THEIR ANIMALS SO MUCH, AND SO THEY THEY FACE EXTREME DANGER. EVERYBODY IN THE HOME WITH AN ABUSER IS REALLY VULNERABLE, KIDS, PETS, THE SURVIVOR, AND WE HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT IN ITS TOTALITY, RIGHT? AND HOW ARE WE GOING TO PLAN FOR REDUCING BARRIERS SO SURVIVORS FEEL LIKE THEY CAN LEAVE, RIGHT? THAT THEY HAVE THAT OPTION, OR STAY AND TRY TO KEEP THEMSELVES SAFE. SOME SURVIVORS CHOOSE TO DO THAT. WE RESPECT THEIR AUTONOMY AND THEIR DECISION MAKING. YOU KNOW WE TRY TO GIVE PEOPLE RESOURCES AND HELP THEM UNDERSTAND THAT THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE REALLY WON’T CHANGE ON ITS OWN. MORE THAN LIKELY IT WILL TAKE SOME SORT OF INTERVENTION. IT WILL BE PROGRESSIVE. IT IS PROGRESSIVE. AND WE NEED TO TRY TO HOLD PEOPLE ACCOUNTABLE. I ALSO THINK AS A COMMUNITY WE HAVE TO GET THERE MUCH SOONER THEN WHEN WE NEED TO CALL THE COPS. YEAH, YEAH. WE HAVE TO BE TALKING IN OUR HOSPITALS, OUR CHURCHES, AND OUR SCHOOLS WHEN CHILDREN ARE BORN ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. WE NEED TO BE TALKING WITH YOUNG PEOPLE ABOUT WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A HEALTHY HUMAN BEING. HOW DO YOU HANDLE ANGER IN A HEALTHY WAY? YEAH. THAT’S A NORMAL PART OF RELATIONSHIPS. AND YOU MENTIONED THE WORD CYCLE, AND SOMETIMES ON SO MANY DIFFERENT OCCASIONS IT IS A CYCLE, USUALLY YOUNG GIRLS WHO WATCH THEIR MOMS AND ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS END UP WITH THE SAME TYPE OF MAN. YOUNG MEN WHO WATCH THEIR FATHERS BE ABUSERS ALMOST SUBCONSCIOUSLY BECOME THAT SAME TYPE OF INDIVIDUAL, AND YOU KNOW IT’S JUST SOMETHING I THINK AWARENESS AND TALKING ABOUT IT AND JUST REMINDING PEOPLE THAT ORGANIZATIONS LIKE YOURS EXIST IS REALLY WHAT I CAN DO AS A MEMBER OF THE MEDIA, BUT YOU HAVE BEEN WORKING IN THIS FIELD FOR SO MANY DIFFERENT YEARS AND SOJOURNER TRUTH HOUSE HAS BEEN AROUND SINCE, WHAT? ’75? SO YOU GUYS HAVE SHOWN AND PROVED THAT YOU HAVE A FORMULA FOR HELPING PEOPLE AND I JUST WANTED TO MAKE SURE WE GOT YOU HERE TO DEFINITELY MAKE PEOPLE AWARE. I THINK THE MOST IMPORTANT THING WE DO IS WE GIVE LOVE AND RESPECT TO PEOPLE WHEN THEY COME TO SIXTH AND WALNUT, OUR NEW FACILITY, AND WE GIVE THREE REALLY CRITICAL MESSAGES, YOU’RE NOT ALONE, IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT, AND I’M HERE TO HELP. AND THAT’S WHAT WE NEED TO BE DOING ACROSS THE ENTIRE COMMUNITY IN EVERY VENUE. WE NEED TO BE SAYING YOU’RE NOT ALONE, IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT, AND I’M HERE TO HELP. AND THAT LOOKS DIFFERENT IN DIFFERENT SCENARIOS. BUT IT’S REALLY IMPORTANT THAT WE GET THAT MESSAGE OUT TO BOTH ABUSERS AND SURVIVORS.
ABSOLUTELY AND TO THE GENERAL PUBLIC SO IF THEY HAVE A FRIEND A FAMILY MEMBER, SOMEBODY EVEN IF IT’S SOMEBODY ON THE STREET AND THEY’RE GOING THROUGH SOMETHING, THEY KNOW BECAUSE IT’S IN THE BACK OF THEIR MIND THAT THERE IS AN ORGANIZATION THERE THAT CAN HELP MAKE A DIFFERENCE. SO REAL QUICK YOU GUYS HAVE A 24 HOUR HOTLINE AND I JUST WANT YOU TO, ONE, GIVE US THAT NUMBER SO PEOPLE CAN JOT THAT DOWN, AND THEN TELL US THE SCENARIOS WHERE ONE WOULD UTILIZE THAT HOTLINE. SURE. IT’S 414-933-2722. 933-2722. IT IS CONFIDENTIAL. YOU DON’T HAVE TO GIVE YOUR NAME. PEOPLE CALL WHEN THEY’RE IN DANGER THERE OR AFRAID THEY NEED INFORMATION FOR THEMSELVES BECAUSE THEY’RE BEING VICTIMIZED OR THEY THINK THEY’RE BEING VICTIMIZED. THEY WANT TO FIND OUT YOU KNOW AM I A SURVIVOR? WE ALSO HAVE SOMETHING ON AN IPHONE OR AN ANDROID PHONE THAT YOU CAN DOWNLOAD. IT’S CALLED THE PEACE APP AND IT HAS A RELATIONSHIP TEST ON IT AND YOU GO THROUGH A SERIES OF QUESTIONS. BUT PEOPLE WANT TO KNOW AM I IN AN ABUSIVE SITUATION? THEY WANT SUPPORT THEY WANT TO TALK TO SOMEONE. I REMEMBER THE OLDEST WOMAN THAT CALLED A HOTLINE WAS 98 YEARS OLD. WOW. AND SHE WAS CALLING TO TELL SOMEBODY, SHE SAID I’M CALLING TO TELL SOMEBODY BEFORE I DIED THAT I WAS ABUSED AS A CHILD AND SHE DIDN’T WANT TO GO WITHOUT TELLING SOMEBODY. SO SURVIVORS WANT TO BE HEARD. YEAH. THEY WANT TO KNOW THAT SOMEBODY’S LISTENING. THEY WANT RESOURCES, THEY WERE UNDERSTAND WHAT’S AVAILABLE TO THEM. LOVED ONES CALL TO SAY HOW CAN I HELP THIS PERSON IN MY LIFE. EMPLOYERS HAVE CALLED, THE POLICE CALL FROM THE SCENE WE HAVE A CONTRACT WITH THE WITH ALL LAW ENFORCEMENT JURISDICTION IN THE MILWAUKEE COUNTY THEY CALL FROM THE SCENE AND THEY OFFER AN OPPORTUNITY FOR SURVIVORS TO TALK TO AN ADVOCATE. WOW. SO IT’S CONFIDENTIAL, 24-HOURS. YOU DON’T HAVE TO GIVE US YOUR NAME AND WE’RE HERE TO SUPPORT PEOPLE. OK, THANK YOU FOR SHARING THAT. AND COUPLE OF MORE THINGS, YOU’VE GOT AN ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL FACILITY AND WHAT MAKES IT UNIQUE AS IT IS ONE OF THE FIRST IN THE NATION TO PROVIDE COMPREHENSIVE SERVICES TO VICTIMS AND FAMILIES IMPACTED BY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, BUT YOU ACCOMMODATE A NUMBER OF ORGANIZATIONS RIGHT THERE IN THE FACILITY, SO SOMEONE WHO’S ALREADY UNDER THE STRESS OF DEALING WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON WHATEVER LEVEL DOESN’T HAVE TO MAKE A RUN HERE, OR THERE, OR MAKE THIS CALL AND THAT CALL. YOU REALLY HAVE PEOPLE RIGHT THERE, THOSE RESOURCES THEY NEED FROM THE DISTRICT. ATTORNEY’S OFFICE TO MPS, SENSITIVE CRIME UNIT, WHATEVER THE CASE THEY ARE THERE UNDER THAT ONE ROOF. IT TOOK US ABOUT 10 YEARS TO GET THERE BUT IT’S A CO-LOCATED MODEL OF SERVICE AND IT’S DESIGNED TO DO EXACTLY WHAT YOU SAID, MINIMIZE THE NUMBER OF PLACES THAT YOU HAVE TO GO. YEAH. WE’RE WORKING ON A CENTRALIZED DATABASE AND CREATING ONE THAT WILL HONOR YOUR CONFIDENTIALITY BUT HAVE YOUR DATA FOLLOW YOU WITH PERMISSION. SO YOU TELL YOUR STORY A FEW, A FEW TIMES INSTEAD OF MULTIPLE TIMES TO DIFFERENT PROVIDERS. WE’RE ALL IN ONE BUILDING SO WE CAN ACCOMPLISH THINGS THAT WE WOULD TAKE DAYS OR WEEKS TO DO OUTSIDE OF THE BUILDING. IT REALLY ISN’T THE ANSWER TO EVERYTHING, BUT IT HAS MADE LIFE EASIER FOR THOUSANDS OF VICTIMS WHO NEED SERVICES. SO YOU CAN TALK TO THE DA, TALK TO A SCHOOL SOCIAL WORKER, GET SOME BODY WORK DONE BECAUSE WE HAVE WELLNESS SERVICES, WE HAVE A THERAPIST WE HAVE CORRELL CENTRAL,
WE HAVE 14 PARTNERS. CORRELL CENTRAL DOES MINDFULNESS, MOVEMENT, REIKI ACUPUNCTURE MASSAGE. YOU HAVE TO GET AT IT IN A NUMBER OF DIFFERENT WAYS. THEN WE HAVE AN EDUCATION CENTER AT THE SOJOURNER TRUTH HOUSE AND SHE’S OUR NAMESAKE. THAT’S A NAMESAKE. OF COURSE SHE WAS BORN INTO SLAVERY IN 1797, THE EPITOME OF A STRONG WOMAN WHO MADE A DIFFERENCE. OH ABSOLUTELY. MAKES SENSE TO HAVE HER NAME ON YOUR CENTER. WE’VE QUICKLY RUN OUT OF TIME BUT YOU’VE GOT A T-SHIRT HERE AND THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF THE GREAT THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN WHEN ORGANIZATIONS COLLABORATE, RIGHT? RIGHT. WE PARTNERED WITH MILWAUKEE HOME. FOR A SECOND YEAR IN A ROW THEY DESIGNED THIS T-SHIRT FOR US YOU CAN ORDER IT BY GOING TO OUR WEBSITE. A
PERCENTAGE OF THE SALES. GO TO SO DINNER AS A FUNDRAISER.
BUT YOU. KNOW THE WHOLE POINT OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH IS REALLY TO KEEP US TALKING ABOUT THIS CRITICAL ISSUE. WE SHOULD BE TALKING EVERY DAY OF THE YEAR BECAUSE IT IMPACTS EVERYTHING WE BELIEVE IN. SO THIS IS ONE OF THE WAYS YOU CAN SUPPORT US. ALL RIGHT WELL THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR STOPPING BY AND GIVING US ALL OF THE OUTSTANDING INFORMATION AND HOPEFULLY SOMEBODY WATCHING WILL TAKE THAT INFORMATION AND PASS IT ON, OR JUST USE IT IF THEY NEED TO. THANK YOU AGAIN. IT’S GOOD TO BE HERE. IT’S BEEN A PLEASURE. THANK YOU. CARMEN PITRE IS THE PRESIDENT AND CEO OF THE SOJOURNER FAMILY PEACE CENTER. FOR MORE INFORMATION ON ANYTHING THAT WE’VE DISCUSSED YOU CAN VISIT THEIR WEBSITE AT FAMILYPEACECENTER.ORG. AND AGAIN THAT 24-HOUR HOTLINE NUMBER IS 414-933-2722
414-933-2722 WHEN WE RETURN TO OUR ISSUES MILWAUKEE WE’LL TURN OUR ATTENTION TO THE AFFORDABLE CARE ACT ALSO REFERRED TO AS OBAMACARE. THE ENROLLMENT PERIOD FOR 2018 IS NOVEMBER 1ST THROUGH DECEMBER 15TH. A LOT OF PEOPLE OUT THERE HAVE QUESTIONS AND WE’VE GOT REPRESENTATIVES THAT CAN FILL YOU IN ON EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW RIGHT AFTER THIS. [MUSIC]

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